Good Hair vs. Bad Hair
For as long as I can remember I have always been self-conscious about my hair; mainly because my hair has always been so thick. Growing up I always thought “thick” hair meant “nappy” and nappy hair meant “bad” hair. No one wants nappy hair, especially when it’s treated like bad hair by everyone else.
I mean who really wants bad hair!? My solution at the time was to get a relaxer. I thought the only way I could have good hair was by having my edges slick and my hair bone straight, with the occasional “bumping” of my ends. Go ahead and ask, “What was I thinking?”
What We Consider “Good Hair”
I have been natural for almost three years and I love the thickness and volume of my hair…now. However, it seems to still be this fuss about “good and bad hair” within the natural hair world. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m guilty of seeing a picture of someone with 3a/3b hair and thinking she has “good hair”. But, I was dismissing the texture of my hair and not giving credit to my own curl pattern as being “good hair” as well.
A common misconception about women with 4a/b/c hair is that we don’t have a curl pattern. We definitely do ladies! You just have to be patient and explore different products that will work for your hair type and not get caught up in idealizing someone else’s hair.
What We Should Be Focusing On
Since natural hair has become more prevalent among African American women, we are constantly questioning each other about the different hair types and trying to define whether or not that person’s hair is good or bad. In addition to someone making assumptions based on hair type, women have gotten wrapped up in the length of hair. Just because your hair is short doesn’t mean you have bad hair, and just because your hair is long doesn’t mean your hair is healthy either. I definitely had to learn this the hard way.
My hair has always been able to grow to shoulder length but it hasn’t always been healthy. I can honestly say my hair didn’t become healthy until a year ago. That is when I started to wash, deep condition, and trim my hair every week. Not until then, did I notice the changes I wanted for my hair. Of course I had to play around with different products by trial and error, but I found products that worked wonders for MY hair! I do product reviews for the good, the bad, and the ugly!
Love YOUR Hair
More and more, I’m finding out that while some things work wonders for some women with the exact same hair texture as me that doesn’t mean that it will work in the same manner on my hair! I’ve gotten to know my hair in ways I didn’t know even existed but it has made all the difference in shaping what I think about hair. Good hair is healthy hair, no matter the texture, how tight or lose your curls are, or how kinky it is.
“Black woman’s biggest hair problem is that think their hair is a problem.”- Anonymous