As I travel through my twenties, I have realized having sex is important but it isn’t the only thing alone that drives a relationship. Let’s be real, I know some of us have had situations where sex was the first thing to happen, then we tried to make things work and they just couldn’t. Maybe it was because intimacy wasn’t the foundation of the situation. Sex and intimacy are two different things and without both it can be difficult to maintain the other. You can have sex with anyone but creating intimacy may be a little more difficult. Intimacy takes time; it takes both people wanting a deeper connection with one another that goes beyond the surface level of just wanting a sexual relationship.
Intimacy makes you feel like you’re not only being seen but that you are heard. That person knows what you like and don’t like and create ways for you both to grow together emotionally. Intimacy is about creating closeness with someone, spending quality time together doing things you share interest in and continuously doing those things to maintain your relationship.
Depending on your partner it may be difficult for them to provide you with intimacy because they just may not know how to do so. So if you find yourself struggling to have intimacy without being intimate or just wanting to increase the intimacy you already have, you may benefit from the following tips!
- Discover your love languages
- Cook a new meal together
- Learn something new
- Hold hands
- Read a book together
- Create a photo album
- Always hug one another before and after you depart
- Visit an art museum
- Have deep and personal conversations
- Paint something together
- Write short love letters
- Give each other massages
- Shower together
- Have cuddle time
- Travel somewhere close or far together
Intimacy without sex really has no limits. Anything that interests you and can bring you closer to someone can be done. If you want more intimacy try doing some of these ideas and see if it helps! How do you increase intimacy in your relationship?