Finding new friends in a new city can be difficult, especially if you stick to the same routine. I was that one person who goes to work and back home, just to do it all again the next day. For the past 5 years this was my motto. I would not advise it at all! I would think, there is no need for me to get know anyone, this is only temporary.
Yes, I do plan on venturing out to other cities, but not having a social life and experiencing what a new city has to offer is depriving yourself of possible growth and learning experiences. I didn’t see the benefit of meeting new people and establishing relationships until recently.
Breaking the Shell
When I moved to Indiana, I was fortunate enough to have gone to college locally. So when I transitioned to living on my own, I had already accomplished the biggest task, meeting the locals. Through extracurricular involvement in school, I made a new friend who looked out for me and would invite me places around the city. For someone who is shy and doesn’t mind quiet nights alone, venturing out to meet people can be a daunting task. Breaking out of my shell was something I wasn’t interested in, and wanted to stay within my comfort zone.
Getting Out Your Comfort Zone
Staying in the confines of our comfort zone not only gets boring, but it is like being stuck in the house watching everyone else have fun playing outside. How fun is that? Not at all! As with many things in life, we get out of it, what we put in. Yes, I wanted friendships and to hang on the weekends, but didn’t want to make myself available to those opportunities.
If you don’t put forth any effort, nothing is going to come of it, which is what I learned. People will only invite you out so many times, just to be told “maybe next time”. Even it was something I wasn’t interested in or didn’t feel like going, I made myself go. When I did, I ended up having a great time. That was an experience I would have missed because I wanted to stay in my comfort zone.
The Newness Will Wear Off
The longer you are in a new place, it will no longer feel new. The anxiety of the newness wares off and comfort settles in. Currently this is where I am at, I have made myself a home. I have learned so much about myself in these past five years that there is no way I could forget my time here. As tough as it may be initially in a new place, I truly believe we are placed where we are for a reason. It may be for personal growth or to be of help to one another, an experience awaits you. All there is to do is to embrace it!
I have embraced my purpose for being here, which has made a difference in my ability to step out of my comfort zone and meet new people. I am not an extrovert, but the best tip I can give those in a new city is to make yourself available. Be willing to venture out on your own and explore, as well as be willing to meet others.