Finding yourself is often looked at as a place you go to or state of being that is impossible to achieve. Finding yourself is not about making extreme changes, but about letting down walls. It’s also about believing you are already that person, but just needs a little brushing off. You have to believe you are that person and be willing to build off what is already magical about you. When you feel it is happening for you, it will click on like a lightbulb. You will be able to see things clearer and know you are ready.

Life is not about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself. There isn’t a cookie cutter way of creating yourself to be the person you have always dreamt of.  I remember when things started to change for me, clear as day. Here are some key ways I have felt more comfortable through the process.

Follow Your Heart


People who know me, know that sometimes I can be very indecisive. I always used to second guess myself when it came to selecting a major, a career path and taking on new leadership roles. One thing a mentor of mine once told me is, “do what your heart tells you to do”. Ever since, that is what I have done. Your mind will tell you one thing, but your heart will always tell you the right thing. It will guide you—whenever you are questioning yourself, making a major change in your life or deciding if you should take on a new career. I have friends who have come to me for certain advice and I always ask them what their heart tells them to do. Listen to your heart.

Do What Makes You Happy


I struggled with allowing my relationships with others define who I was. I know there are a lot of people who can relate to that, especially if the relationship isn’t that great. The day I decided not to be defined by someone else’s actions, I felt at peace and happy. I wanted them to do what makes them happy so that I could do the same. Be content with the fact that you will never be able to change how someone else acts, but instead only how you react.

Be Picky with How You Spend Your Time


I truly believe how and who you spend your time with can determine your attitude. If you are spending your time with people with negative energies, you will receive and consume negative energies. If you do things that drain the life out of you, your life will feel draining. You will be left feeling lost and as if you have no control. Be okay with separating from those people and this, and spend time with yourself. If you are not comfortable in the presence of yourself, how can you be complete when you’re with others? Spend more time alone.

Finding yourself is a lifelong process because you are continuously changing as you experience life. However, having a strong foundation and doing things that can provide clarity and insight can help. Your foundation can help you remain grounded with who you are, no matter what you are experiencing. I believe it will help you transform into the best version of yourself!

How are you finding yourself right now? Comment below!