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Where did the time go?! I can’t believe that a week ago, my husband and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. There were a lot of people who were excited to hear that a young, black couple was engaged to be married, 22 and 24, but there were many who thought we were insane. I had just graduated from college a few months prior and my husband was in his final year. What people didn’t know is that from the beginning, we knew this was it. We knew that this was our last relationship and that we had found the person God sent to us. We were excited about this and didn’t understand what we needed to wait for, especially if this is what we both wanted.

There were also many people giving us advice, reminding us that marriage is hard work and foreshadowing that our first year would be the hardest. I must say that we were presented with challenges like in any relationship, but we were given some good tools in our pre-marriage counseling to get through them (more about working through this will be in a later blog). We don’t believe it was our hardest year however. There was never a time when we looked at each other and wondered, “Are we going to make it?” Instead, God filled our year with nothing but amazing accomplishments! We finally closed on our house a month after our wedding! We started our search a month before our wedding…I know, crazy right? But we made it happen! I started graduate school and my husband graduated from college. It was a year of us supporting each other, learning each other, leaning on each other and understanding how to truly love each other. Marrying him was the best decision I have ever made in my life and I would do it again every day if he asked me.


Have you ever met someone who just gets you? We literally finish each other’s sentences without trying. We share desires and interests, but yet still maintain our individuality. We are both artistic and encourage each other to go after our goals. I’m his helper as God created me to be and he’s my best friend. We get tired of each other, yet want to spend any moment we can with one another. As I tell many couples, maintaining your relationship and love does not go without hard work and that’s exactly what marriage is. It is a daily effort to be a better spouse and put more into your union. Why spend years jumping around to random relationships that aren’t going anywhere and demanding you to be a better person? I choose to be with someone who does that and we work to go to the next level. I am so thankful for God and thankful for my husband. I wouldn’t trade this year for anything and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my days living with this man and creating an amazing life together.

I will never forget this magical day. I was afraid my natural hair wouldn’t make it, but it held tight! Although, we had about three seasons of weather that day! It rained in the morning, was cloudy in the afternoon and right before our 3 o’clock wedding, it was sunny again with not a cloud in the sky. I was afraid it would rain, and I’d have to cancel my carriage  ride. Check out a glimpse of our wedding in the video below! What did you love about your wedding day or what do you dream for it to be? Tell us below in our comments!

 Video by Mike Washington Photography