“Just because something isn’t happening for you right now, doesn’t mean it never will.”
By the immaculate grace of God, I was blessed to see the age of 25. I recognize how that is a huge blessing because we are losing so many of our young people. I actually was pretty excited to turn 25 up until the week before my birthday and it really hit me that I have reached my mid-twenties. This strange anticipation of becoming the big “twenty-fly” had come over me. I’m analytical, but I began to overthink everything. I have no idea where my career path will take me next. Although I’m taking good care of myself I am not financially stable. (People have this strange misconception of what a newly graduated nurse with minimal experience makes). My dating life wasn’t exactly a huge highlight. I was unmotivated, passionless and in this strange funk, but I had no real complaints. I also felt this huge pressure to have it all together and all of this led to me realize I was approaching the infamous “quarter life crisis”.
Aren’t sure of what a quarter life crisis is or if have experienced one? Here are some signs and symptoms:
- Nothing is terribly wrong, but nothing seems right either
- Feel pressure to “get your life together” or have it all together
- Feel financially unstable
- Feeling that you are waiting for something, but you don’t even know what
- Half of your friends are settling down and the other half are still hitting the clubs regularly and you want to do both
- You have this “forever in limbo” feeling
- A breakup to a relationship or lack of one is causing suffering
If you can identify with any of these symptoms, I hate to break it to you my friend, but you are probably on the brink of this crisis. Fortunately, no matter how horrific a storm may be, it will not last forever. I do not enjoy being sad and down. Especially when I have so much to be happy about. I started coming up with ways to get pass this acute phase. This began to immediately turn around when I realized, im still so young and I do not have to have it all figured out NOW. There is so much beauty in the journey. I picked up new hobbies. I’m redecorating my home, enjoying my fairly new puppy, experimenting with cookbooks and I really want to become the next India Arie on the acoustic guitar. Most importantly, I have increased how much I am praying over my finances and love life. LIFE IS GOOD! I know my latter 20s will be better than my earlier 20s and I am ready to embrace all that God has for me in my future!
Have you experienced a quarter-life crisis? How did you get through it? Leave your comments below!