“Just because something isn’t happening for you right now, doesn’t mean it never will.”
By the immaculate grace of God, I was blessed to see the age of 25. I recognize how that is a huge blessing because we are losing so many of our young people. I actually was pretty excited to turn 25 up until the week before my birthday and it really hit me that I have reached my mid-twenties. This strange anticipation of becoming the big “twenty-fly” had come over me. I’m analytical, but I began to overthink everything. I have no idea where my career path will take me next. Although I’m taking good care of myself I am not financially stable. (People have this strange misconception of what a newly graduated nurse with minimal experience makes). My dating life wasn’t exactly a huge highlight. I was unmotivated, passionless and in this strange funk, but I had no real complaints. I also felt this huge pressure to have it all together and all of this led to me realize I was approaching the infamous “quarter life crisis”.
Aren’t sure of what a quarter life crisis is or if have experienced one? Here are some signs and symptoms:
- Nothing is terribly wrong, but nothing seems right either
- Feel pressure to “get your life together” or have it all together
- Feel financially unstable
- Feeling that you are waiting for something, but you don’t even know what
- Half of your friends are settling down and the other half are still hitting the clubs regularly and you want to do both
- You have this “forever in limbo” feeling
- A breakup to a relationship or lack of one is causing suffering
If you can identify with any of these symptoms, I hate to break it to you my friend, but you are probably on the brink of this crisis. Fortunately, no matter how horrific a storm may be, it will not last forever. I do not enjoy being sad and down. Especially when I have so much to be happy about. I started coming up with ways to get pass this acute phase. This began to immediately turn around when I realized, im still so young and I do not have to have it all figured out NOW. There is so much beauty in the journey. I picked up new hobbies. I’m redecorating my home, enjoying my fairly new puppy, experimenting with cookbooks and I really want to become the next India Arie on the acoustic guitar. Most importantly, I have increased how much I am praying over my finances and love life. LIFE IS GOOD! I know my latter 20s will be better than my earlier 20s and I am ready to embrace all that God has for me in my future!
Have you experienced a quarter-life crisis? How did you get through it? Leave your comments below!
I coooompletely understand. For a while my life WAS "bad." My finances were not where i wanted them to be and while i don’t care for a relationahip, it bothered me that i had a roommate because i HAD to. Well, one day things turnes alll the way around. Bam! Just like that. And now, i find myself in the same rutt. At times i feel like i am at a standstill. I remind myself where i came from and that i need to be grateful. Not to mention, God has given me some opportunities that many do not have. I’m learming to be grategul and know that my answers will be answered in due time.
Ultimately God has the perfect timing and I had to understand that and accept it. It was essential for me to come up with some next plan. Whether career wise, something as simple as resigning my lease, what new hobby I want to pursue and it made life not be so bad. And I started having a lot of fun in the meantime. Just to ease my mind and distract myself from what was going on in my head! Please keep me up to date on your journey. I would love to hear about it!
Thank you so much for reading my post Queen!
I SOOO KNOW THE FEELING BUT AFTER I PRAYED AND STARTED REEVALUATING MY LIFE I WAS IN A MUCH BETTER PLACE WITH LIFE AND MYSELF.
Isn’t it amazing how awesome it is knowing that God is the Prince of Peace? Once I pray about things it eases my mind knowing that God knows what I am dealing with and that He will take care of it. I think this is a constant thing we will keep having to deal with and pray about. If you have any other ways you relieved yourself from this crisis I would love to hear about it Queen! Thank you for reading my post and your support !
I’m 23 and I kinda feel this way already. Lol I feel pressure to have it all together but I know in the back of my mind that I have years to make progress. Thank you for sharing your experience and giving encouragement!