“…maybe she’s a slut because she’s lonely, she’s sad, she’s hoping someone or something will make the lonely and sad go away. It won’t, of course. It never does. But nonetheless, there’s not a girl who’s more hopeful than a slut, more optimistic. She may give in but she doesn’t give up. She keeps looking, she keeps hoping, she’s always waiting for that someone who will say it: I love you, too.” ― Diana Joseph

Unless you’ve been in complete hiding from the social world, you’ve probably heard of Amber Rose; whether you’ve heard about her from her relationship with Kanye West, her public feud with the Kardashians or her marriage to Wiz Khalifa, who is also the father of her 2 year old son Sebastian Taylor Thomaz. In a span of a few years you’ve gained so much knowledge about her and her life whether it was welcomed or not; and it’s probably been through juicy celebrity gossip, provocative photos or very public, nasty breakups.

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However, most recently you’ve probably noticed her due to major statements she’s been making at recent events. Amber Rose, and best friend Blac Chyna, have received a lot of media coverage around her MTV VMA 2015 Outfit. The fitting bodysuit was embellished with words that people have called her throughout her life, including “slut”, “whore”, “stripper” and “gold-digger”. This seems to be the early stages of Amber making a statement regarding sexist labels against women.

Amber Rose has since launched The Amber Rose Foundation, which key messages are “No more sexual violence”, “No more victim blaming”, “No more derogatory labels” and “No more gender inequality”. If you are anything like me, this sequence of events may lead you to ask, “Where is this coming from?” and “What is her story exactly?” Amber shared her story at the event she hosted on October 3, Slut Walk in LA. Check it out below:

After watching this clip, I came to understand her a little better. Amber Rose is like many women whose past experiences has affected their lives and relationships with men; giving her all to them believing she was the ‘exception to the rule’, only to be left alone and labeled nothing other than the usual derogatory, sexist labels that many women are shamed with. It is sad—the words that are maliciously applied to women for behavior, attitudes and actions that many men build their reputation, popularity and fame around without any negative connotations or consequences. Men can do what women can’t. Women can do it, but they will be negatively labeled. Fair? Definitely not. It is gender inequality at its best. I commend Amber Rose for her honesty. I commend Amber Rose for her openness, authenticity and vulnerability that were easily witnessed when she shared her story with a sea of women who are also dedicated to her cause.

However, as I watch this clip, so much more came to mind. More than what everyone has discussed. While I am all for girl power and that is the basis of my project, I also believe in owning things. Am I saying that a man has the right to call a woman a derogatory name whenever he wants? Of course not. I’m saying that we should not allow for these names and situations to define us and essentially create our reputation. I appreciated Amber’s story and I know that many women, including myself, can identify with others believing that you are something that you’re not. The problem I had with this clip was that she was standing there saying don’t call me these names, but in my opinion didn’t say much more about herself in regards to her appearance. Her story was impactful, but I find it hard to be empowered by the message she was delivering because her dress was shorter than her underwear. I feel if you want to tell women of the world not to accept being called sluts or whores, you must also empower them not to dress as such.

Source: TMZ Source: TMZ

When will we begin to empower young women to be confident in their inner beauty? Who will tell them that they don’t have to wear the lowest shirt and shortest skirt to get a man’s attention? When do we tell them we don’t dress for attention? We dress for ourselves and to show other young women following behind us that it is okay to be yourself and not leave the house next to naked in order get ahead or noticed. While you will get these things, you will get them for the wrong reasons. If no one has told you and you continue to do this, honey stop it. You are worth more.